When I knew that CSP & I were serious, and that it was highly unlikely that our families would be merging into a big, loving Disney musical family, he & I sat down & discussed a holiday schedule. He’s the only child so if we aren’t with his parents on a holiday then they are all alone unless they make plans with other friends and/or family. Splitting the day is not an option for us as our families are all day celebrators and running between two houses while making sure each family gets good, quality time with us is not my idea of fun. We talked it over with both sets of parents and came up with a schedule that we’ve been following now since our first set of major holidays. It works for us and our parents. CSP’s parents know what to expect so they make plans ahead of time and it ensures that they are not alone on Christmas or Thanksgiving. One year they even went to NYC for Thanksgiving. Works out great. Our schedule is this: if my parents get us for Thanksgiving then they also get us for Christmas Eve and CSP’s parents get us for Christmas Day. The next year we alternate. New Years Eve & day are up for grabs, as are the other holidays throughout the year. CSP is a grocery store manager so he often has to work on Christmas Eve til 8pm (SUCKS! DON’T go to a grocery store on Christmas Eve! It gets later every year!), and every other year or so he’ll have to make a stop in at his store on Christmas Day. New Year’s Eve he’ll often have to work til 11pm and New Year’s Day & Thanksgiving are wide open. He might work at 6 am or til 11pm or even overnight. I loathe his job come holiday season. Although he does come home with funny stories, like the time this one elderly lady who always wore headphones to keep the government out of her head (her words) returned her egg nog because it didn’t taste right. That’s because it was half & half.
So…do you & your mate/partner/spouse/booty call have a schedule for spending time with your families around the holidays or do you just wing it?